Bob Andelman
Bio
Hotbot
Search
"By Bob Andelman"
Northern
Light Search
"By
Bob Andelman"
Guru.com
Hiring Information
for Bob Andelman
Order
Books
By Bob Andelman
Andelman
Archives
Articles
Books
Reviews
Stadium For Rent
Hey, Kids!!!
Big
Black Spider With
the
Orange Orange Eyes
Mr. Media Archives
The
Latest
1998
1997
1996
1995
1994
The Andelmans
Bob
Mimi
Rachel
Write To Us!
Bob
Mimi
Rachel
(Since Oct. 7, 1999)
|
|
Bob Andelman Articles
Archive
Love Letters
"Men" column By Bob Andelman
(Originally published in the The Big Guava, 1992)
My last secret is out.
My wife was in the garage, thumbing through cardboard boxes she
never opens, looking for a will belonging to a recently deceased
relative. That's when she inadvertently discovered a pile of
identical, over-stuffed manila envelopes. All but one holds aging
business receipts that should have been thrown out years ago.
The contents of the other envelope? Love letters.
Written on stationery, greeting cards, napkins, popsicle wrappers
you name it, I squirreled away every scrap of communications
that my first true love ever sent me. It was 1979; I was a skinny,
naive,19-year-old University of Florida student, Celia was a
17-year-old farm girl with a freshness and spunkiness I'd never
encountered before.
Some of the notes are corny, some funny, others are sexy and
provocative. I never expected or wanted anyone to read them.
That's why they were hidden away.
Who wants their wife or current girlfriend to read: "I miss
making love to you ... " Or this gem from the outside of
envelope: "Sealed with wet panties and sugar on top!"
Another note I saved came from the middle of an old college notebook.
I found it while doodling during an anthropology class at the
University of Florida. "Robert," it says, "you
are supposed to be doing your work and listening to the teacher.
I know you aren't doing either because you are reading this dumb
letter! Get back to work!"
And when I say I saved everything, I mean everything. There's
even a brochure in the envelope titled "Contraception: Comparing
The Options." It lists all the options and then a chart
for each one, describing effectiveness, advantages/disadvantages,
side effects, health factors to consider and long-term effect
on ability to have children. This was my first serious girlfriend
and I read everything.
So many of the notes are innocuous, talking about shared experiences,
mutual friends or dreams. We wrote a lot of notes back and forth
at that age, it was easier to write certain things down than
say them face to face. (Years later, when my wife and I were
courting, we spent hours on the phone, night after night, time
we remember fondly today.)
Another brochure from two years later in the relationship was
titled "Diamonds." Just before the whole thing crashed
and burned, I went to one of those gold and diamond outlet stores
and bought an engagement ring for $525. How do I know the exact
price? I saved the receipt, natch, along with business cards
from all the stores I shopped.
In the end, our relationship collapsed and I was crushed for
a long time. She became pregnant and I wasn't the father. Get
the picture? But I kept everything, remembering the good times
and letting history heal the bad.
Still, I'm paying for my stealth. My wife knew that years before
we even met there was someone very special in my life, just as
there was in hers, but it never seemed so personal until she
discovered this trove. I've fielded an endless stream of questions
about Celia.
"Why did you keep these letters?"
"You really loved her, didn't you?"
And my favorite: "Did you love her more than you love me?"
Think you're pretty smart? Figure out an answer to that question.
I've re-read the letters for the first time in a dozen years.
It's almost like reading someone else's mail because I feel so
separated from the person to whom Celia was writing. And the
pictures of us in the envelope well, the guy I'm looking at had
long sideburns and, the biggest difference, hair.
I'm keeping the letters. But my accountant says it's time to
toss the receipts.
©2000, All rights reserved. No portion
may be reproduced without the express written permission of the
author.
PROFILES
FIRST PERSON
MURDER, I WROTE
LATEST WORK
Free Andelmania E-Newsletter!
Want to hear the latest about the Andelmans? Join
our mailing list!
You'll get updates about the family and professional news, too.
Enter your email address below, then click the 'Join List' button:
You can order any of Bob's books from Amazon.com by
clicking on the icon below. His latest book, The
Corporate Athlete: How to Achieve Maximal Performance in Business
and Life, (John Wiley Sons) written with Jack Groppel, Ph.D.,
is now in stores.
These books are also available as audiotapes :
|